Identity
- I am Naomi Persephone Amethyst.
- I am a girl.
- I am empathic, deeply feeling, and caring.
- I am logical, thinking in systems, and a problem solver.
- I am social, connected with others.
- I am a learner.
- I am a builder.
- I am sexual.
- I am introspective and self-aware.
- I am empowering and nurturing.
- I am dynamic, imperfect, evolving, and growing.
- I am polyamorous.
- I am a servant, provider, and caregiver.
Traumas & Triggers
- I was born in the wrong body, made to believe I was not a girl.
- I was isolated and sheltered by my family of origin.
- I was conditioned and raised a Southern-Baptist Christian.
- I was required to transition in a world that is hostile towards those that do.
- I was abandoned by my family of origin.
- I was controlled and coerced to be inauthentic by my first relationship.
Values
- Authenticity. People should not have to mask or hide who they are.
- Autonomy. People should not be controlled or coerced.
- Freedom of Love. People are free to love whoever they love.
- Love is not Scarce. Love is not rare, nor is it a finite resource to be spent or hoarded.
- Emotions. Emotions are important, valuable, not to be suppressed or repressed, and should be cared for.
- Logic. Decisions should make sense.
- Recognition. People should be recognized for who they are, for the things they do.
- Accountability. People should be accountable for their mistakes. We all make mistakes, but it is important to own them.
- Forgiveness. People acting in good faith should be forgiven.
- Sexuality is not Sinful. People should not have to hide or feel shame around orientation, kinks, or fetishes.
Purpose
- I will make the lives of those I love better.
- I will protect, care for, and nurture those I care about.
- I will respect the autonomy of others.
- I will build a family of my own built upon my values.
- I will live authentically, I will not hide.
- I will make the world a better place for people who have similar traumas.
Needs
- Companionship. I need partners I can deeply intertwine my life with; that I can rely on and who can rely on me; a group with which I belong.
- Affection. I need to feel cared for, to feel loved, to feel important to others.
- Emotional support. I need people I can fall apart with; where I can talk about my emotions and be heard; where I can be a mess and be taken care of.
- Love. I need people I can love and who love me. Not for what I do, could do, or have done. Not just some version of me. But for who I am. Who I can love for who they are.
- Care. I need people I can take care of and people who can take care of me.
- Quality time. I need to spend dedicated, quality time with people I love.
- Touch. I need skin-to-skin contact. I need to touch and to be touched.
- Praise and Affirmation. I need to be told that I am appreciated, that my effort is seen and appreciated, and that I am doing a good job.
- Communication. I need to be able to exchange ideas, experiences, and opinions openly, clearly, and honestly. I need to be able to have difficult conversations with those that I love and still feel heard.
- Solitude. I need time alone to recharge. To do my own thing. To introspect.
Wants
- Peace and Stability. I want my partners and I to be able to live without worry for the future.
- Joy and Longevity. I want my partners and I to be happy and healthy together.
- Fulfillment. I want my pursuits to make a meaningful improvement to the lives of those I care for.